Coup On Brought Up Of Children - 3 [whatever the parrot speaks, it belongs to its nest]

There is an idiom in Telugu “Auu chelo Mestte Dooda gattuna Mesthunda!” How the calf could graze on the bank of field while its mother cow graze in the field. How truth it is? But I watched so many parents to council the children with words but not with their own behavior. In their opinion, words are powerful than works. I don’t know how the empty plate can satisfy our hunger if we say that the plate is full with food to eat.

Here I refer you an example given by Sri Swami Ramatheerdha. I read this as my Telugu lesson when I was studying in my 6th class. In that example Swamy Ramatheerdha said that “If a room is dark, we can’t en light it by scolding the room, cursing it, and thronging ink bottles into the room and pushing the table in the room. Only by lighting a candle can drive out the darkness from there. Only appropriate work can give yield or result but not hundreds of words”. If we observe keenly, the least application of this consciousness is all over our society now.

Here I want to narrate you another real life story which I read as my lesson in school days. I had forgotten the name of great personality about who is mentioned in that lesson. It might be either Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa or Bapuji i.e. Mahatma Gandhi.

One day a woman with her 6 years old child came to a great person and requested him to advice her child to do not over eat sweets. He asked her to visit him again after one week. After one week, she approached him with her child and he counseled the child regarding over eating of sweets and advised him not to over eat the sweets. After that the mother asked him that to advice the kid why he took one week time. He told to her that himself have the habit of over eating of sweets, so that within this one week he stopped to eat them and then only he could advise the child.

That’s all the impact of it. But what we observe now? There is a general opinion that the ethical values and morals are only to say but not to practice.

With such motives, how the elders can guide the children in a faithful way? The following story can demonstrate you this, with high clarity. As per my remembrance, I read this story in Chandamama, the children’s magazine.

అనగా అనగా …………….

One day a hunter captured two baby parrots in a forest. He kept them in a small cage and moved towards his home. On the way one of baby parrot fallen from the cage. The hunter did not notice it and proceeded home. At that moment a sage was coming in that way. He observed all. He took that baby parrot in to his hands and brought it to his ashram. Along with his disciples, he had taken care of it. It brought up there and learnt to speak. As well as the hunter brought up the other baby parrot in his home. Days were passed.

One day a rich man was travelling in the forest on his horse. He lost his way in the evening darkness. By observing light, he approached the hunters hut. There he heard a voice saying, “Some body came. Beat him. Hurt him with sword. Kill him.” The parrot in the cage was saying this, when it watched this unknown man. By hearing this, the rich man afraid and ran away from there. After few minutes, he could approach the sage’s Ashram. There the parrot in the cage said when it watched his arrival as “some Athidhi Deva i.e. God in the form of guest came. Welcome him. Treat him with food and shelter. Serve him well”. By hearing this, the disciples and sage came out of the ashram and received him as their guest.

After having food and rest, the rich man explained his experiences to the sage. And asked why the two parrots said different words though both are same type of birds. To his surprise, the sage told him both the birds were born to one mother parrot. The rich man enquired the reason. The sage counseled him as “Nayana that means oh, my little father like! Though the parrots belong to same mother, they brought up in different houses. Whatever they observed there, they are following the same, ‘Ye guti chilaka Aa Paluku palukunu’. That means “whatever the parrot speaks, it belongs to its nest.”

That’s the entire story.

Without this awareness, maximum proportion of parents is bringing up their children. They are making their children to educate in pseudo schools and pseudo systems. It is the result of total Mechanical life. By thinking that they are following Aristocracy or Modern life or Advanced attitude, they are not allowing the children to think with logical sense. They are not allowing the children to learn hard working. The sweet childhood is filled with running, speed schedules, bihardings, without enjoying knowledge, without hearing stories, without love nature. Just they are getting education with out readability. Just they are getting marks, ranks and certificates without personality.

So many parents are thinking that by giving expensive things to children and by fulfilling all the needs and desires, of their children their responsibility is over. But do they know why children especially kids have woo on their teacher? Why the kids obey their teacher? Why the kids admire their teacher? Children used to argue with their parents as their teacher said so and so, but not like the parent said. Most of us have these experiences with our children. Being teacher and being mother, I have this experience.

This is because the kids love their teachers. Why they love their teacher? The teacher is not giving expensive things to them. The teacher is not fulfilling their needs and desires. Then why they love their teacher? Because, the teacher is fulfilling the thrust of knowledge. The teacher is satisfying their hunger of knowledge.

Up to certain younger age only, kids can satisfy with physical needs. After that, they hunt us with curiosity. They put the rain of question on us. They harass us to introduce all the surrounds & other things. That’s why only rich life won’t give bondage with the children. The peaceful lives can give the joy of bondage with the children. The chatting, the story telling will mesmerize our life with love and affection in family life. Then only our children can become like a son of Jijiya bai i.e. Shivaji or like a son of Puthali bai i.e. Bapuji.

Lullaby songs, bedtime stories, handful food represent the motherhood, but not spoon-feeding or Pizza presenting. Playing on belly, climbing on back, playing rezling competitions, represent the fatherhood but not shopping and restaurant visiting.

In our Sanskrit literature, there is a slokam which I forgotten but I can present its meaning to you. According to it, we have to treat our kid i.e. son or daughter like a king that means boss to us up to their 5 years. By the way they can enjoy the priority of childhood. After 5 years up to 15 years, we have to treat them as servants. By the way, they can learn hard working and obedience; by the way, they can learn good knowledge. After 15 years we have to treat them as our friends. By the way, they can learn the self-respect, courtesies, behavioral concepts, by the way they can learn about the values and problems of life.

But now what is happening? Most of the parents are not awaritive, how to bring up the children. And most of the parents are not eligible to bring up the children. Actually, the children are not only belonging to their parents. They belong to the society. They belong to the country. They belong to the world. In fact they are the assets of the nation.

May be that’s why, the great philosopher of Greek, Plato in his Utopia, said that the children must be apart from their parents to bring up them as perfect citizens. But by doing so, life will become tasteless. But by improper performing of parenthood, life is becoming bitterness.

That is the tragedy. We must effort to change this situation for the sake of sweet smile on the shining lips of the children.

In this contest, let us recall the sweet song from Rabindra Nath Tagore’s Gitangali.

“Where the human mind can be without fear,

Where the human being can move with respect and reasonable pride,

Where the knowledge can be exist with freedom,

Where the world cannot be divide into piece and preserve in-between the
Narrow walls,

Where the words can be evolutes from depth truth,

Where the everlasting investigation can extend towards the fruit fullness,

Where the pure flow of knowledge cannot be, evaporate in the desert of dead
And blind believes,

Where the mind can travel towards the permanent and wide paths, in thoughts,
In works, in to such heaven of freedom, oh God!

Let my nation should wake up.