Coup On Brought Up Of Children - 1

One day, a mother came to my school along with her 2½ years old kid. She asked me to admit the kid [girl] in school. I refused it and I tried to convince her, as “It is not good to depart such small kid from mother. You are not working woman. So it is not unavoidable for you to leave the child in school immediately. Enjoy her childhood. Let the child grow in the hands of mother at least up to 3 years. She will be self-confident. In future, such children will become strong youth. They can be daring enough to face life struggles. So leave her free for some more time.”

Immediately the mother of that kid answered me as that the kid was naughty enough, so mischievous and hence the mother was not able bare her. That’s why she wanted to admit the kid in the school. What we can say?

In past i.e. before 40 to 50 years, each and every mother in A.P. i.e. in India used to think that their kid was Bhagavan Bala Krishna. There was a belief in our society as God stay at children’s mind. Mother used to sing Lullabi by imagining that their child look like Sri Krishna & used to make up them look like Bala Krishana on Gokulastami day. So that they could enjoy the spirituality, love and affection of mother & child bondage. By such feelings, the patience in mother could get increase. That to in those days, there was no T.V. or internet i.e. recreation or entertainment of 24 hours to eat up the time of human life. So that they were able to enjoy time, with human bondages.

By now the house wives even find no time to spend for the family. Nobody have time to spend for kids. Each grown up person has his own schedules.

Recently in Kurnool district, there was happened one incident. I read it on News paper. A woman left a child of aged 1½ year in a water tub, to prevent his disturbance while watching T.V. serial. After 2 hours i.e. four T.V. serials episodes only, she could remember about the kid. But by that time, the little boy lost his life. How terrible it is? Is the T.V. serial which filled with revenges, coups and extreme expressions of actors attractive and enjoyable than the sweet smiles, words and activities of little boy? The smooth touch of a kid will give us more relax. The divine smell, which carries the tinge of milk of a kid, will give us more relief from tensions. The sweet smile of a kid will sink us in the flow of smiles. The cute body moments of a kid will wet us in the rain of laughs. This is my own experience with kids in my school. In fact, this is the experience of everybody except the T.V. addicted fellows.

Is T.V. serial or T.V. anchor mesmerism more enjoyable than this?

Really, most of the people had forgotten how to enjoy the life and what is real joy. In past that means the time at which this much of speed was not introduced in our lives, joint families were there in society. Children could watch that their ‘parents obeying their parents i.e. the grand parents of children. The children would be educated about behavior, mannerisms, common sense, human relations, and basic knowledge of society by their grand parents. The grandparent’s generation would be more patience and more leisure to spend with children. Both the generations of grand parents and grand children are mutually suitable to each other with respective their needs. The old generation needs time spending objects where as the little generation needs time to clarify their nonsensical and absurd doubts. Such a nice mutual requirement that God had provided in human society i.e. in family system to enjoy love and affections. How much kind is God towards human beings and all living things!

But every living being is enjoying such naturality except human beings. Recently I read an interview of a celebrity in which she explained that she got an E-mail from her daughter to seek her appointment for half an hour. We need money; we need achievements to prove our selves. We need success to get professional satisfaction. Ultimately we need self satisfaction in life. But how can we get self-satisfaction, by losing time to enjoy bondages, time to enjoy nature and time to enjoy feelings?


In my opinion, we must use our talents, abilities and capabilities irrespective of men and women in home as well as in society.

But manufacturing of consumer goods or commercial goods whatever they may, be computer, projects, or anything else, are not at all greater than the manufacturing of right and faithful generation. No doubt that the computer is not greater than the computer inventor.

I hope that you accept my opinion. I wish that all of we think about the limitations of material and sentiments i.e. materialism and idealism.

Recently I read on newspaper that some scientists done experiments, conducted surveys and declared that the playing of ‘Dobuchi’, ‘chichi’ of mother with her kids is most helpful for child growth. Dobuchi means mother used to cover her face or child’s face with transparent cloth and say ‘Buchi’ by removing it. Repeated silly game will entertain the mother and child as well as entire family. Since the age of 3 months it self such entertainment and communication will start with the child. After survey on number of kids, the scientists declared it, where as in Indian life style, it was adopted as ancient as Indian history & Hindu culture. In fact, Hindu culture is not a religion. It is a life style. Foreign scientists verified such practical one now. If they get patent on it, demand the mothers all over the world to pay money to them to enable the mothers to play Dubuchi with their own kids; we should not feel wonder on it.

Because, to play with kids of age days to months, doing massage on the baby bodies with butter and oils, prepare food with granules, all are part of Indian motherhood. But now Vitaminised oils for massage, Farex as solid food etc. etc. are in market availability. But to the natural and regional environment, Farex or Cerelac etc. are definitely not as suitable as natural crops i.e. cereals & seeds. But, due to attractive advertisements, young generation is crazy towards such chemicalized corporate products and paying deaf ears to the old generation advices. In fact old generation also forgotten the nature and running after the speed life on the name of modern.

Now scientists are declaring that Pram is preventable while compare with carrying of the kid under the arms by hugging them towards mother’s breast. By hearing her heartbeat, the child’s health physically as well as psychologically will be much more better. Now scientist are declaring that walker is preventable while compare with making the child to walk by holding the finger of father to enable the child to under stand the gravitational pull and to let the child to get improve the coordination among body organs & brain. By experiencing such force, the brain cells organization will get activated naturally. Other wise it will be deficiency permanently just like mother’s breast milk vs. bottle milk.

On the other hand corporate companies are introducing shampoos i.e. baby shampoos, which won’t burn Baby eyes. So no need to them to close their eyes and to cry during bath. So such shampoos are more comfortable to both mother and kid. But who will give practical experience to the kid regarding the protection of eyes with eye lashes? After grown up they may learn it. But naturality is driven away from them when they are days babies themselves.

Naturality is driven away and artificial world is introduced them at the age of months itself by means of T.V. So hearing to grandparents and other family members, replying them with Ha Ha Hi Hi Hi sounds, conversing with family members in their own kid’s language is minimized as possible as. That much of artificiality, distance from nature are necessary to kids?